Throughout our lives's change effects us all but the way in which we deal with it can have a long lasting effect either positive or negative so it's the way you respond that dictates it's effects on you!
When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” - Alexander Graham Bell
Fantastic advise from a man who experienced so much about change, the fact in which we dwell in the event and miss the opening is more due to the fact we allow ourselves to focus on the change and any negative repercussions than look for the positives, in his book SUMO Paul McGee talks about allowing yourselves Wallow Time, a time in which to reflect but not to allow ourselves to become the victim. it s the speed in which we move out of that period of feeling sorry for yourself or adjusting to the change that predetermines it effect on you.
You have to choice of either being in control of the situation or been the victim. Whether it is a change in your job or business, a change in a relationship and or a tragedy that's happened in your life. The total truth is …YOU CANNOT CHANGE WHAT HAPPENED
You can't change whats happened but you change your mindset except the change and look forward, look for that open door be aware that something will appear as you need be ready to react, remember what you think about you'll bring about so focus on the positives, and don't dwell on the negative these have no purpose but to bring you down
Tips in which to help you though change
1. When things happen, and they will. Think about how the way your dealing with the change. Is it serving you or is it playing a “what if victim card” searching for who is to blame? is not the place you want to be in. If the way you are dealing with change is NOT helping you, then discard it find a better way of dealing with.2. Have you, like Alexander Graham Bell said, looked at the new door or opportunity that opened? Do you SEE the door or the opportunity? Trust me, there is ALWAYS opportunity and an open if you look for it, you just have to see for it and believe its there, you'll find it. Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately if you are being positive) you get whatever you look for both in the negative and positive. So, if you are looking for all the negative things about change, you will find them, every time. See the opportunity. I know people who discovered infidelities have now reached a whole new level of relationship due to finally being honest and open to one and other. Network marketing leaders that had their career's off massively after been made redundant or have lost traditional businesses.Look on the positive side and see the open door !
3. How can you become more from this change? I don’t mean who can you blame others or yourself but look truly where can you personally grow? If you want to be a happier person, focus on your internal growth start reading and a couple of great books that can help are SUMO (Shut UP Move On) Paul McGee or Who Moved My Cheese Dr Spencer Johnson. You'll will be amazed at how change doesn’t affect you any longer in a negative way and by maintaining a positive mindset you'll see that opportunity
4 Its a fact that most people's biggest breakthroughs come after adversity so the fact your mindset is in the positive helps you see the positive opportunities that await you through the open door as Wayne Dyer said
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
Remember change happens its down to you to get the best out of it just look for the positives
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